There is something called the 12 step program, it helps people to over come addictions to negative behaviours. Addiction is not just for people who poor vodka on their cornflakes or who are slumped in an alley smoking a crack pipe. Anyone who eats junk food to cheer themselves up or has a drink when [...]
The more you give the more you get
Who ever you care the most about, whether it’s friends, family, customers, employees, whoever. Show them. Be nice to your friends they’ll be nice to you. Love your family they will love you back. Treat your customers well and they will treat you well. Look after your employees they will look after you. You get [...]
Why should you never give anything 100%
If you give anyone thing 100% you are either lying or making a big mistake. You could give 100% to any of these things: Work Children Physical health Mental health Significant other Friends Family You could become the best in the world at any one of them. But at what cost? You could be the [...]
The mental wellbeing spectrum
From irrationalising the rational to rationalising the irrational. I’m going to describe 3 places on the spectrum but you could be anywhere in between. 1. Mental illness You irrationalise the rational. When you suffer with a mental health problem such as depression or anxiety you find irrational ways of looking at the rational. If you [...]
You can’t expect kindness unless it’s what you offer to yourself & others
Should anyone be kind to you if you are not kind to them? Should anyone respect you if you don’t respect them? They might if you are lucky but probably not. If you aren’t kind and respectful to others then you probably aren’t being kind or respectful to yourself. It starts with you. Be the [...]
Self awareness is not easy
Self awareness is knowing what you are good at and accepting what you aren’t good at. If you judged David Beckham on his ability to drive a Formula 1 car or Lewis Hamilton on his ability to play football then they both would probably be considered a failure. Self awareness doesn’t always come naturally. [...]
Why I wear the same thing everyday
Life is difficult enough. Decision fatigue is a real thing. Every day you make 35,000 decisions. No matter how big or small, each one takes its toll on your brain. One of the decisions I never enjoyed making or felt like it was worth the stress was - what to wear each day. I decided [...]
Happiness is a choice
The only thing you are 100% in control of is the way you feel about the things that happen to you in your life. If you hold open a door for someone who doesn’t say thank you, you can look at in two ways. You could get angry with them for being so ungrateful. Or [...]
Inspiration vs instruction
If you tell someone to do something they do it for you not them. There are only so many times that person will go against what they think is right without developing a level of resentment. If you share with somebody why you do something and you help them understand the benefit then if they [...]
How to be understood
The most important thing if you want to be understood is to understand your self first. Until then whatever you say could be open to misinterpretation. If you are being misunderstood then try and write down what you want someone to understand. Get it clear in your mind the point you are trying to make [...]